Solpa adjust maadi


I returned home from work last evening and I headed straight to the utility area to bring back clothes from the balcony and what do I see in the kitchen? I see that one of the burners was left on by the lady that comes in the morning to get my son ready .I leave early, so this girl fixes a coffee for herself.She heats up the left over dinner and has it for breakfast.I have never had issues in petty things such as fixing a coffee or eating leftovers.But I was fuming yesterday.A gas left on for a good 10 hours??? This isn’t the first time .Last time, she didn’t switch off the gas properly and I came home to a mild gas leak !! She absolutely has no business in the kitchen is what me , the husband and the in-laws discuss on many occasions.She isn’t helping with making breakfast or helping my son with milk or doing the dusting , something which she agreed to when I hired her.I do all that before I rush out of the door by 7AM.All she does is heat her coffee and only then she prepares herself to give the son a shower.

Last evening, we decided we will summon her and give her a soundful.By the time she turned up, I had mellowed down and only gave her a mild dialogue , though I was seething with anger when I first saw the incident. I guess leaving gas on is unforgivable.Not only is it a colossal waste of resource, it poses a terrible risk to our home as well as that of other apartments !!! Phew !!! FUMING !!!

The husband thought I was too soft on her.This morning, before leaving for work I thought I should raise the topic again and make it very clear because this girl wasn’t even ready to accept that she left it open.I hate it when people hide their mistakes and start lying.

And then the morning happened.The regular maid didnt turn up, and all I had to do was shut up.So when this girl turned up, rather than confront her, here I was requesting her to do the vessels as a favor.

So there goes my inflated ego.As a working mom, you are dependant on a whole lot of people.More so on the maids in India.

Every time you make a decision that the domestic help is of no use and needs to leave, there comes another situation such as the regular maid not turning up at all.So we swallow our anger and do the “solpa adjust maadi”. If I had lost cool, she would have found a job elsewhere , where as I would struggle with finding a replacement. Tell me, which toddler will adjust to a new aaya every now and then. So I rant on this space, I may not like her at all, but I will engage her for whatever little she does in the mornings.

Reminds me of my friends in my ex-organization. They always managed with mediocre resources in their projects .We were going through a no hiring phase, no salary increment and we were asked to produce results with what we had in hand. So as managers, we fumed, we discussed over lunch, we waited for the hiring block to clear.But then we continued to deliver with resources we weren’t happy with.

After all beggars cannot be choosers !

Make your own diyas..


We had a potter come over to our office and help us each make one diya that we could take home on the occasion of Diwali. This was my first experience in making a diya.

I was left wondering what money this guy would be making otherwise.This is the only season when they can make a killing, with most Hindus buying the diyas on the occasion of the festival of lights.

But then a new trend in the cities is to invite potters over for birthday parties , and help each child make a own diya. These new trends might help potters make some additional money.